What does it mean when I say that I love someone? It’s so very important, when discussing such delicate matters, to be sure to define all of our terms. I am attracted to people who resonate with my aesthetic, or with whom I perceive an energetic congruency. I like people that I resonate with a little, I love people that I resonate with a lot, and I consider myself to be ‘in love’ with people with whom I have become entrained. My conscious will plays a role in this process, but it does not control it. […]


Relationships are living systems. They’re dissipative structures. They require permeable boundaries in order to survive. Walled off from the world they will starve, but they’ll fail just as surely if they’re utterly unbounded, offering no framework in which the organizing principle can manifest itself. […]


Fidelity doesn’t necessarily imply monogamy – it just means having a high signal to noise ratio.

— Teafaerie, “High Fidelity